Tips for Taking Self-Portraits in Public!

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So, we’re out on a photo walk or on an everyday adventure and we see the perfect spot to take a self-portrait with our camera or iPhone, but….there are people around!  Do we take the photo?  Do we move on?  What will they think we’re up to?

These questions come up a lot in my self-portrait classes and it such a good one to chat about!  So I thought I’d share a few tips with you about how to take self-portraits (especially full body photos or those in which we step into the frame) in public!

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Find a Bit of Privacy in a Public Space

You might be surprised to know, there are plenty of times I don’t take a photo because I do feel too in view of other people.  One trick I really like to do is to find a bit of privacy in a public space.  This could standing behind a tree, or on the other side of a fence, or just go down the beach a bit to take the photo.

Indeed, if you are setting up your tripod, you likely won’t be too inconspicuous, which is why I love to take photos from the ground (or near the ground, on a rock, on top of my purse)!  That way your camera can be out of view (or like you just put it down) and you can take your self-portrait!

To me, it does feel really important to find a little bit of privacy.  My personal exploration through self-portraiture is really based on finding my way back home to feeling present & at home in my own body, my own skin and a big part of that explored through movement.  So finding these little bits of privacy even in public places, feels important to create that safe space to move or dance or whatever I need to do to feel grounded in my body on that day!

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Have a Couple Camera Options! 

One of the ways I really like to listen to my gut when taking these self-portraits is whether the moment I want to take the photo in public calls for using my iPhone or my DSLR.  iPhones are much more subtle as they are so much smaller and someone would have to be pretty close to see that I’m taking photos from the ground with it!

My DSLR on the other hand, is much bigger and I’m more likely to be noticed using it!  If you have a Point and Shoot, that is a great option too as it is pretty subtle!

Having these options feels really important too when I’m in a place where I don’t want to make it too public that I have a big fancy camera or if I don’t feel too comfortable being too far away from my camera bag.  In these kind of situations I like to use my iPhone as it is much easier to set it down and step into the frame without being too far away!

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Scout out Locations (and sometimes, just go for it)

If you’re craving to take more self-portraits out ‘n about, I totally recommend keeping your eyes open for good spots to go to and to make note of them!  Places like parks, community gardens, in front of murals, in touristy places, in fields, in the forest, alleys!

I love to jot down places that I haven’t tried yet in a note on my iPhone as I see them and if at the moment it doesn’t seem like its going to be a fit to take a photo, you can always come back!

Yet, sometimes you might just see a spot that you REALLY want to take a photo.  Sometimes we just need to go for it!  The time we’re spending wondering if someone will come around the corner seeing us might be the exact time we need to actually go for it and take the photo!  Often on my photo walks I’ll find a ray of light that is just asking to be stood in for a photo and there are plenty of houses around.  Is someone watching from inside their house?  Perhaps?  But I like to remember that all the jumping and twirling might just add a bit of joy to their day!  In this case, like my last point, I might decide to use my iPhone to make the photo more subtle to people watching!

For more locations ideas, check out this post: 10 Great Places to Take Self-Portraits!

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Listen to Your Intuition, Not Just Your Inner Critic

I go on LOTS of photo walks, especially when spring arrives and the light has returned! I often try to go out every evening even just for a walk around a few blocks of my neighbourhood.   What I’ve discovered about taking self-portraits in public is that it really helps to notice what is my intuition speaking and what is my inner critic.

When we can listen to our intuition, we can notice if it feels like a safe or comfortable spot to pause and take a self-portrait in public.   We can notice what feels like the right type of photo to take in that moment.  Do we feel brave enough to put down our camera and step into the frame? Or would this be a better moment to stretch our our arm and take an arms length self-portrait?  Or do we feel most comfortable in that moment taking the oh so subtle foot self-portrait style photo?  In each moment we have lots of options.

If none of them feel like a fit in that moment, I encourage you to just keep adventuring and not see it as not being brave enough or failing.  Its listening to our intuition about whether or not it is a good moment to go for it!  To tell you the truth I often find that when I have a moment of not feeling comfortable taking a photo in a certain spot in public (even if it is a place where I normally might take it) there is often a new spot, a different place that I’ll find further along on the photo walk to try.

Now, our Inner Critic on the other hand, might be that voice telling us that “We’ll look silly” or “People might laugh at Us” or “I’ll make a fool of myself”.  These voices are trying to stop us from going outside of our comfort zone.  Stepping into the frame and taking a self-portrait with our whole selves in it, especially in public, is vulnerable.  Our Inner Critics…in a mean way…are trying to protect us.   I know its hard to push past them ALL the time, but I really encourage you to not let them stop you from taking self-portraits in public all the time.  I tend to like to remember different locations when I’m really having a rough Inner Critic day.  On a day like this, I’ll try a location like the community garden near my house that is pretty quiet…and has a lower risk of people seeing me take my self-portraits than, for example, taking a photo standing in the sidewalk.  Sometimes finding a space that feels a bit less busy is enough to help the Inner Critics take a hike!

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Bring a Friend

Sometimes it can be helpful to have a cohort in our selfie taking and it can make us feel much more comfortable having someone to stand near our camera or cheer us on!

For my own personal journey with self-portraiture it has felt really important to find outside spaces where I can really feel comfortable moving and dancing as I heal my relationship to my body and feeling present in it.  For me, this often has meant taking these photos solo as I feel more uninhibited and its that freedom, that ‘Dance like No One is Watching’ that I feel really in need of on this healing path.

But for you, going on photo walks with a friend might be the perfect answer, having support, and as you get even more comfortable taking photos out and about, you might try it on your own later on!  I encourage you to do what feels right for you on this path!

And you know what…sometimes people will see us! Sometimes they’ll walk right into the photo (which makes for a fun outtake)!

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I hope these have been helpful to you and I’d LOVE to know if you give taking a self-portrait in public a try!  If you share your photo on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook please do use the hashtag #beyourownbeloved so I can find your photo as I’d love to celebrate you and cheer you on!

For more self-portrait suggestions & prompts, come join me for one of the upcoming sessions of one of my E-Courses!  Beloved Beginnings starts soon, on March 10th, and is a 10 day exploration of seeing yourself with kindness through your camera!

Then starting April 1st, a new session of Be Your Own Beloved starts! This 28 Day class has been transformative in so many folks lives in shifting the way that they see themselves in photos from a place of critique to a place of self-compassion (and even seeing themselves with love)! 

Is Using a Filter on Your Self-Portrait Hiding?

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When we use filters on our selfies as we share them online…are we hiding?

Are we using those filters to mask ourselves? Or are they artistic expression?

Is using a filter a bad thing?  Is it more ‘truthful’ to not use a filter?

When I started teaching Be Your Own Beloved, these questions came up in discussions with some of the participants.  It was so intriguing to me, as I hadn’t thought of using filters as hiding…but I was interested in why that was a pretty common experience for a lot of the folks in my class.

Now…if you aren’t familiar with what I mean by ‘filter’, it is anything that we layer on top of a photo.  Some apps provide filters (like Instagram) that are a combination of effects that alter the photo.  Other apps like Pic Tap Go allow you to add all sorts of features one by one.  These layers might be things like brightening the photo, changing the colour & tones, adding some texture or a border.  Much like you might layer effects in something like the website PicMonkey.

My exploration of photography began just as the most basic camera phones were emerging (let alone options to use filters) and as I started to explore using a digital camera, I noticed the way that everyone else’s photos seemed so much brighter than mine so I went on a mission to figure out why this was.  I learned about photoshop and got playful with it, as well as websites like PicMonkey (well, in that era it was called Picnik).  I learned about how to change contrast & add colour and my photos finally had the same vibrancy that everyone else’s seemed to.  I most definitely fell head over heals with using texture and layers on my photos too.

So when iPhones and Apps & filters emerged I was thrilled that it was now way easier to add a little spark to our photos!  Not only that, but using filters allows us to discover our own style.  Do we love black and white photos? Or a little bit of brightening to our face in the self-portrait?  Do we love adding a layer that almost looks like fog or softening to our photos?

Quite honestly, it never felt like hiding to me, but I absolutely want to honour that for some people it does.

To me, it felt like these filters were now going to make it so much easier for me to get creative with my self-portraits and to take a photo that I might have thought was okay and transform it into something I felt really proud of, within seconds.

As a portrait photographer, this is part of the process…picking out which images have that extra spark or let your client shine.  Then we process your photo deciding what changes help the photo shine even more.  The tools portrait photographers use are reflected in a lot of those filters that you might use on Instagram.  Adding a brightness, or more contrast, adding a texture or turning it into black and white.

This is part of the fun of taking photographs and yes, self-portraits…figuring out which one lets us shine.

In fact, I think a filter can often be a way that we can take a photo that may bring up old stories of how we see ourselves and help shift it into a photo that we might be able to really see ourselves with kindness in.

Plus, the thing about self-portraiture is that:

We get to decide when & how its taken.

We get to pick which one out of the many we took feels like it lets us shine the most.

And we get to choose what we want to do before sharing it.

Its vulnerable to share our photos online too…so in my opinion, filter or no filter…pushing past that vulnerability is something to be proud of!

It seems like a creative, empowered choice to share our photos online and process them in a way that makes us feel good about the photo.

You didn’t stop yourself from taking it…

You didn’t delete it after taking it…

You chose to share it and let us see you  Sure, sometimes when we use filters, it might blur out parts of us or add so much texture that we might be less visible in the photo.  But I hope you’ll ponder that in fact this might not be hiding after all.  You still are getting creative with it and sharing it…and all of those layers and the choices you made in getting creative with them is a way of letting us see you too, through your style of processing the photo.

Perhaps if there is a filter that really feels like a safety net to you, something that you do feel like you hide behind…maybe there is another filter out there that is similar in the tools it uses, but that could feel like a filter that helps you shine, rather than hide?

And is posting a photo filter free…better?  This is a longstanding conversation in photography in general…but to be honest, I don’t feel like posting a self-portrait is better filter-free.  It might be a way we can step out of our comfort zone (which is SO powerful) to share a photo filter free, but I don’t think it disvalues the ones we do add a filter too.   As you might have noticed, I’m not really into seeing some self-portraits as ‘better’ in general (a foot photo being less valuable than a full body self-portrait for example.  Both are brave)!  If you don’t use filters…awesome! If you do…thats awesome too!

My personal style of using filters these days has become much more subtle than when I first started using them, but I almost always add a little something to a self-portrait to help it reflect the vibrancy that I want it to hold.

I thought I’d bring up this subject today in case you feel like each time you have a filter on a photo, you aren’t being truthful enough by sharing it filter-free.  Lets go of the idea of using filters of hiding.  I happen to think it is brave creativity in action.

Lets re-work the idea of filter as being something that we ‘hide’ behind to being something that helps us shine, that invites us to feel more confident sharing our photo & seeing ourselves with compassion.  So lets use our filters with pride today…and if you do, please tag it with #beyourownbeloved so I can cheer you on!

How do you feel about using filters on your photos?  I’d love to open up a conversation in the comments here about this subject…and I’d love to hear from you!

Re-Sparking a Love Affair with my DSLR

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Last year was the year of the iPhone over here!

I most definitely took more iPhone self-portraits than DSLR photos, primarily because as I teach Be Your Own Beloved I like to participate alongside the participants with my iPhone rather than my DSLR…as the journey in that class isn’t just about how fancy your photo is…it is about telling your story through your camera (any camera…yes, even a cell phone camera).

Every month at some point I’d get out with my DSLR (if you’re wondering what gear I love, there is a post all about it over here), but after years of it being my primary way of documenting the world around me in that magical way that a DSLR can do…I confess I missed it!

I’m craving to re-spark a love affair with my DSLR.

So this year I want to make an effort to bring out the big camera more, both to document the world around me, step into the frame and I’m so excited to do more photo sessions too!

The other day I donned my thrifted cowboy boots and took my camera to the community garden and it was surprisingly quiet so I found myself feeling free to take lots of photos in some spots at the garden that are usually busy!

Here are a few photos from that adventure!

How about you?  Do you favour your cell phone camera over a DSLR?  What is your favourite camera to shoot with?

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Spreading Hearts!

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Last week, leading up to Valentine’s Day, my friend Rachael Ashe, an amazing local artist, invited me to join her in an adventure in spreading some hearts around our neighbourhood!

Rachael made the stencils (and you can read more about it a post over at her site) and it was so neat to see her amazing paper cutting art in the form of a stencil!

Our first adventure into spreading these hearts in the neighbourhood got a bit rained out, but was so fun none the less.  Our second adventure, on Valentine’s Day was much less rainy and these ones are still standing strong!

If you are local and you spot one, we have a hashtag for sharing them with us #heartingtheneighbourhood

As you know, I LOVE the serendipity of coming across hearts out and about in the world and it happens on such a surprisingly regular basis and it felt really inspiring to be the one to put hearts out there for other people to find!

Of course, using spray paint isn’t going to work for many of us, but chalk is an awesome alternative!  Have you tried something like this before? Or do you want to?

If you happen to feel drawn to put a little love out there in the form of hearts for other people to find, please do share it with me using #heartingtheneigbourhood or if you step into the photo with your hearts please do share it using the #beyourownbeloved hashtag as I’d LOVE to see!

Here are a few more snaps of some of the hearts we left!

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7 Tips for Getting Through the Winter without Ditching Your Self-Portrait Practice

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The rain has returned where I live and I know many of you in North America are dealing with a whole lot of snow! So I thought I’d share some tips with you for getting inspired to get yourself into the photo even if winter feels like it will never end (because, well…I think these are the things I need to remind myself of too).

Celebrate What You’ve Got!

Rainy days with umbrellas? Your big snow boots walking through the snow?  Ourselves all bundled up in layers?  These are the truthful experiences of winter right?  Sure, we might wish for sunny days, but what about telling the story of right here right now?

The energizing energy of taking photos doesn’t only happen because we have nice weather…it is because we get our cameras out no matter what the weather and engage in it.

Plus, there are great things about winter weather. Cloudy days provide great balanced light and snow bounces light back at us to name a few. So lets celebrate what we do have.  In this session of  Be Your Own Beloved I’ve been so proud of the students getting out in the snow to do their course activities and I’ve been in awe of how beautiful their snowy photos are!   Okay…we might need to wear more practical footwear than I did in the above photo (I tell ya, it was dangerous…I was slipping around everywhere in those silly shoes) but lets celebrate the beauty of winter while it is here!

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Seek the Colour that is around You

I know it can feel like everything is brown or grey or white (if you’re dealing with snow) but one trick that has really helped me is to focus on what colour is around us.

Natural things like:

  • Evergreen Trees & plants….what is still gorgeously green around you?  Get yourself surrounded by gorgeous green!
  • Bamboo! I often find it in a community or public garden and not only is it still green, it has a magical way of letting light pour through it! Standing near Bamboo or other gorgeous plants are a great backdrop or setting for your self-portrait!
  • Go to the Forest or to a Park as inspiration!

Or alternatively, you might notice the colourful things that are always around:

  • Murals to stand in front of !
  • Colourful Buildings to use as a backdrop?
  • Or BE the colour! Wear something bright and colourful and use the muted colours of this season to stand out in the photo! 

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One of my self-care habits is to go to a local community garden at least once a month, all year.  For the past few months everything has been far past bloom: dried plants awaiting their trip to the compost bin, plots covered for the winter, everything settling into quiet until its time to emerge again.  Soon enough it will begin again though.

I especially like to go there in February and early March when the buds are just coming out again.  It feels important to witness the beginnings, the rebirths.  Sure, in months it will be in full bloom but seeing just one more plant starting to come up or little buds emerging onto cherry trees just soothes my winter heart!

You don’t have to go anywhere far to notice the beginnings either.  Look for them around your yard, or when you walk to the corner store!  Lets notice what is beginning anew both in the world around us…and maybe ponder what is beginning anew in ourselves too!  Of course get yourself in the photo with them too!

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Get Outside for a Photo Walk (even If You Don’t want To)

This is the one I most need to tell myself! Some days it is really hard to get outside isn’t it.

But I know that even if I just go for a quick walk around the block with the sole intention of looking for things to photograph, I always come home feeling better.

In fact, it may be the days when we feel the most resistance to getting outside for a photo walk that we might most need it!  Alternatively, when the weather is too fierce, we might try taking a photo walk inside.

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Check the Forecast

I think this is one of my favourite tips for you: Check the Forecast.  I know it sounds simple, but when people ask me “How do you get self-portraits with light in them when it feels like it rained all week” and that is the secret.  I take a peek at the forecast for the week ahead and sometimes even the hourly forecast for the day and note if I can make it happen to go for a photo walk or just be outside around that time.

I know this might sound a bit strange to some, but it has been SO helpful in both having me feel like it doesn’t actually rain ALL the time…and also to get photos with winter light in them!

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Get Inspired, Inside!

Sometimes getting outside just isn’t going to happen!  When it is absolutely pouring rain for days here, I just have to let go of getting outside and get inspired with what I’ve got…inside!

My favourite place to take photos inside is in my bathroom! Here are a whole bunch of tips on taking Bathroom Self-Portraits!

Of course, if you have lots of natural light in your home, that is dreamy to work with!  Get yourself near those windows of yours to take your self-portraits, even if the light isn’t as bright as it is in other seasons!

If you don’t have much natural light in your home, don’t quit.  Cause the truth is I don’t too!  If you’ve ever wondered why I take so many photos outside…it is because I live in a small apartment with not much direct light…so I usually go outside to get inspired.  But on those days it feels like too much to get outside to take photos, it can actually be really freeing to take photos inside!  A big bonus, is that you don’t need to worry if people are watching if you live on your own or if you don’t, find yourself a room (yes, like the bathroom) to close the door and take some self-portraits in and get playful taking your self-portraits!  Or invite those you live with (cat? dog? humans?) to join you in your indoor self-portrait!

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So, after we get outside to take photos…what if they still feel not as vibrant as our summer photos?  Why not get playful with those photos and see how we can add some spark to them.

One of my favourite ways to process wintery photos is actually to make them black & white.  Or to make them into double exposures like the sample photo above! Its a great way to take two photos that might not excite me on their own, but together make me smile wide.  I made that double exposure in the Goldfrapp App, and you can read more about how I like to do double exposures in this post!

It can also be a great time to look back in your archives and play around with photos from other seasons that you might have overlooked at the time!

My favourite apps & websites these days for playing around with photos are:

So take that older self-portrait you might have overlooked before and take this wintery season to get creative with post-processing and bring that photo some new life!

I so hope these ideas help you get energized to take more wintery selfies!  If they do, please don’t hesitate to use the hashtag #beyourownbeloved if you share them on social media so I can find them and celebrate your wintery photo fun with you!