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Make 2016 Your Year

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Last year around this time I had the honour of joining in on a super lovely offering from Hannah the of Becoming Who You Are website called Self-Care 101…it was such a lovely collection of E-Books and offerings and I’ve been savouring them throughout the year.

I get offers to join in on these kind of bundles every so often and its important to me that it’s one that I really stand behind and includes offerings that are in line with the work I do here at Be Your Own Beloved and Hannah has a way of gathering the kinds of books that feel like just the right fit. This one includes offerings from some beloved peers like Jennifer Lee, Mara Glatzel, Tanya Geisler, Kate Courageous, Molly Mahar and some wonderful folks who’s work I’m really excited to explore in these offerings. I hope it’ll be that beautiful mix of folks who’s work you already know and love and folks who’s work might bring new awakenings.

I’m excited to be including the Beloved Beginnings self-paced class in this bundle. You receive the class alongside 16 other ebooks, e-courses and programs for just $79 (a 90% saving!) starting todayMonday 7th December.

Here are the products you can find in Make 2016 Your Year:

– The Fierce Love Course by Molly Mahar (value $97)
– Beloved Beginnings by Vivienne McMaster (value $29)
– The Wanderlust Workbook by Sarah Von Bargen (value $15)
– Board of Your Life by Tanya Geisler (value $150)
– Living on Purpose by Jacob Sokol (value $97)
– Transition Made Easy by Ashley Wilhite (value $49)
– Homecoming: Take a Delightful Journey Back Home by Cigdem Kobu (value $99)
– How to Start Journaling for Personal Growth by Hannah Braime (value $31)
– Body, Mind and Soul Cleanse by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt (value $69)
– She Is Radiant: The Collection by Claire Baker (value $39)
– Rewired Workshop Bundle by Mara Glatzel (value $99)
– 21 Days to Declutter Your Life by Mari McCarthy (value $23)
– Playtime With Your Inner Muse by Jennifer Lee (value $27)
– The Journal Writer’s Guide to Staying Started by Nathan Ohren (value $79)
– Finding a Financial Advisor You Can Trust by Barbara Stanny (value $10)
– Be Your Own Hero by Hannah Braime (value $40)
– The Shift Plan by Kate Courageous (Bonus)
– A suggested lesson plan so you can work through each “module” of the course without feeling overwhelmed (Bonus)

The total value of Make 2016 Your Year is over $900, but for 72 hours between 7th and 10th December, you can get these products for just $79.

You can find out more here and get this amazing bundle of books to give your 2016 a beautiful boost of support through these powerful resources!

5 Days in Dublin

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After a lovely week with my brother in Edinburgh it was time for a bit of solo travel to Ireland. It is the one place overseas I had been before as in my early 20’s I went on a grand adventure with my 2 roommates to Ireland and toured much of the Island.

Dublin came at the very end of that trip and I honestly couldn’t remember a thing about visiting there. So when pondering where to go for some solo adventure time nearish to Scotland, Dublin was in the forefront of my thoughts.  I honestly wasn’t sure why I was feeling called to go to Dublin, but trusted whatever was telling me to.

So I booked an AirBnb there to have a home base in an area I had a feeling I’d like. Honestly, I didn’t plan much as I really wanted to be present for the Edinburgh part of the trip and knew that whatever happened in Dublin would be grand.

Cause, well…life with a camera in hand…you find beauty wherever you go.

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My first day in Dublin set the tone for the rest of the trip. I wandered around the Temple Bar area and around every turn I’d see murals and street art which other than selfies is pretty much my favourite thing to capture through the lens. So much so that when I’d turn another corner and see MORE art, more murals at one point I found myself feeling a little emotional. Beauty overwhelm you could say!

So each day I headed out for a different area of town to see what street art and other bits of beauty I could find and find it I did. It’s a vibrant urban city in just my favourite ways. Not only that, but as you probably know, earlier this year Ireland was the first country in the world to legalize same sex marriage by popular vote. Even these months later you could feel the energy of the YES vote and especially see it in the street art and literally on the walls of buildings. It definitely stole my heart. I live in a country where this has been law for a decade which I deeply value, but a country voting it in feels SO powerful.

I spent most of my days walking with my camera until my feet were sore. What I loved the most about each of these wanderings is that I didn’t have to plan out anything but the general area I wanted to go to. The art just found me. I’d peek down side streets and alleys or just find it there right in front of me. It’s that feeling of seeking it out and finding it that felt really wonderful too…it’s not about getting it perfect, it’s about the adventure.

Day 1 was the Temple Bar area where you’ll find the most murals and street art in the city and probably the most likely to be the same art next time I’m there for the most part.

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I headed over to Gratham Street which is the fancier shopping area of town. I’m glad I checked it out and loved the small streets around that area but it was probably the most busy touristy part of Dublin and I confess I found myself more at ease as soon as I left.

I also found the St Patricks Park that I was staying near which was such a sweet place to settle into the energy of just sitting and savouring the moment. In Paris I stayed near the Luxembourg Gardens and it seems as though the ‘park around the corner’ has become a favourite part of my travels and invites in that energy of slowing down.
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Day 2 I explored Camden Street which had my favourite art which I found out later were all mainly by the artist Maser. All of the murals with the big bold statements were his and what I really love about his work is the heart in it, the love and the messages of empowerment it shares. You can find his Instagram here if you’re interested.

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I also was finally able to check out the Tivoli Car Park which is a big parking lot full of graffiti and murals fairly near where I was staying. It was closed the first day and I was SO eager to get in there and check it out. I think it’s the street art that probably changes the most often. It sounds like they have an event and redo it every year.

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I also headed over to the St. Stephen’s Green and Iveagh Gargens (the later was SO lovely and quiet and had me swooning and feeling that aliveness and living in the moment).  It was the perfect place to put my camera down and take some selfies!

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Day 3 I headed over to a different area of town past the Guinness Brewery and checked out the Museum of Modern Art which I LOVED and spend a large portion of the day there. I checked out a number of art and photography galleries while I was there too but this was most definitely my favourite. Both in Ireland and Scotland the National Galleries are free (or by donation) which absolutely rocks and I checked out some of those too as well as the Modern Gallery.

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Day 4 I got up SUPER early and headed out with both my big lens (the heavy one that I’d been resisting carrying around this week but also knew I wanted to capture the city in it) and my Polaroid camera. There were also a number of murals I had been wanting to get a shot of without a car in front of it.

In the afternoon I went on my 1 and only tour of the trip which was a blast. It was an electric bike tour with a wonderful company Lazy Bike Tours (awesome name, right). Getting to see a city by bike is a favourite way to travel but this city made me nervous in terms of cycling so I wanted to be sure to go with a tour (oh, plus the driving on the other side of the road thing)!

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Day 5: Alas, on Day 5 I packed up and headed out, first stopping at my favourite breakfast place in Dublin called Queen of Tarts (where they had divine gluten free bread) before heading to the airport and wandering the Temple Bar mural lined streets once more before hopping on the bus to the airport and heading home across the ocean.

I came home with a full heart from this part of the trip too, feeling so grateful for all the vibrant beauty that I got to come across in Dublin. I’m glad I listened to that travel-intuition even though I had no clue what I’d find.

There truly is beauty everywhere, awaiting us to seek it out.

Both home and afar.

From Sideways Critique to Sideways Compassion

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Sometimes, in a sideways glance in a store window it reappears…that critical voice with oh so much to tell me about what it thinks.

It feels like my weak spot, the way my inner critic knows it can pounce on me. The place I have yet to really dig into self-compassion work.

For a while I figured if I avoid looking in the window it might not attack but then again, by not engaging with it I’m not necessarily healing what I need and wanted to. But it didn’t release me from the critic. Instead it felt like I was just choosing fear.

But I’m finding that those places where our critics knows it has a way in can become the way in to change that relationship too. Getting angry at our critic or avoiding it doesn’t help us change. But creating a dialogue with it (and one I can use the next time it happens) does help.

So I’ve been looking sideways in the mirror or the store window, ready with kinder words than I’m used to finding there. Ready to tell my inner critic that I hear it, but I’m writing a new story of how I see myself…sideways.

Slowly but surely it feels like the critic is becoming aware that I’m sending beams of love sideways and it might not be the blind spot it used to be.

For one of this weeks activities in the Be Your Own Beloved class we’re claiming space. It’s one that most definitely pushes folks outside of their comfort zone as so many of us, consciously or unconsciously make ourselves small.

In a session of Be Your Own Beloved earlier this year (I like to participate alongside the folks in the class) I was also focused in on my belly as the part of me I wanted to make peace with and shared this image where I invited my belly into the frame rather than cropping it out.

This time, I knew I wanted to take a selfie from the one perspective I rarely do, the one that feels most vulnerable. The body profile shot.

The belly in particular is one of my most vulnerable parts to notice in a photograph (and yup, where my critic arises in that context too). But the sideways love I’d been working on needed to happen through the camera for me.

So I went for it, vulnerability and all. I got a number of them and as I decided which one to share I had to pause and notice how much I wanted to share the ones that made me look a bit smaller (as a slight turn or movement can make us look quite different in a photo despite it being taken at the same time). This time I didn’t want to choose that comfort zone so I shared the one above on Instagram.

Making peace with my belly is still a work in progress (as self-compassion is anyways, it’s not somewhere we succeed and get to never to struggle again…it’s ebb and flow) but by inviting myself into the frame and sending myself love…sideways…the change is happening.

I know this is what changes those critical moments, that the more I create a new compassionate visual dialogue between myself and my body, that voice gets stronger & sings louder than the critical voice.

For those of you who have been wanting to step into using the tool of photography as a doorway to self-compassion, the next session of Be Your Own Beloved is open for registration. No photo experience or comfort level with taking selfies necessary…in fact I created it for those folks who don’t feel comfortable in front of the camera yet.  The class will help you make that change! 

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The Nourish Conference – And A Keynote Announcement!

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I’m SO excited to share some news with you that I’m finally able to spill the beans about today.

I’m the Keynote Speaker at the Nourish Conference.

It’s a body-positive event being held in Saskatoon this November 21st.

The describe the conference as: an event where people of all sizes, shapes, genders, abilities, and backgrounds can gather to celebrate all bodies, support one another as we work toward body acceptance, and build a more inclusive community that values all people.

I’ve been chatting with some of the incredible folks behind this event and know it’s going to be a wildly empowering day and one not to miss. Plus, it’s in Canada. While there is the Body Love Conference happening in the US, there has definitely been a void here that I’m so glad these folks are going to fill this year and beyond.

But of course you don’t have to be in Canada to come! I’ve always wanted to go to Saskatoon and I’m glad it’s located fairly centrally in this big beautiful country (North Dakota, Montana…just a bit north of you).

You can find out more about the event at their website and you’ll find them listed on my events page too. I wanted to mention it today in particular as it’s the last day to apply to be a presenter so if that is of interest to you, you can find the presenter application here!

So, wanna meet up in Saskatoon in November?

Weekly Selfie Tips – Remember to Breathe!

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Remember to breathe?

Breathing is pretty inherent, right?

You might be thinking “I’m pretty sure I’m doing that when I’m taking a selfie” but next time you take one or when someone aims a camera at you, check and see if you’re holding your breathe. Cause it’s very likely you are.

Here’s why.

When we take a selfie, often we may be even just a bit tense. We’ve got so much running through our head: Am I going to like this photo? Should I stand somewhere else? How should I pose or stand? What if I don’t like it? Maybe I shouldn’t do this. Is the light okay? Is the camera setting okay?

These thoughts and so much more. The more we take selfies, the more we build that trust with ourselves that if we don’t like it, we can just delete it. We also build a relationship with the camera and the light and learn what light and camera tools help us shine.

Especially if we’re new to selfies as a tool for self-love, worries (or our inner critic) appear.

And when we see the photo, we are probably seeing that fear or concern or ‘is this going to look okay’ on our face.

Taking a simple deep breathe (or a few) helps calm us, centre us.

It helps us ground and feel connected to our bodies. It helps put us at ease.

And these things shine through in a photo the same way our fear or worry might too.

Try it and see if your photo look different when you do.

So it’s simple but important…remember to breathe!

If you experiment with this or any of the selfie tips I’m sharing each week, use the #beyourownbeloved hashtag to share it with me and be a part of the Be Your Own Beloved community!

P.S. The Be Your Own Beloved class is starting next Tuesday!

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